First and foremost, you must relax. Do not be so hard on yourself that they must be exactly perfect on each nail. If they are a little off, no one will really notice except you.  As long as you get them pretty similar, it will be great.

For me, I get them filled and painted at the Nail Salon. I bring my own polish. That way, if I need to touch it up, I have the polish to do so.

Then I let my imagination be my guide.  I have several bottles of decorating nailpaints. I have about a dozen colors or so. These come with very thin brushes in order to be able to paint with detail.  Another REAL need in my book, is a quick drying top coat/clear polish. You generally have a good amount of polish built up on the nail. And have spent a good deal of time on it, so you want to “set” the polish. This gives it an added shine and if you have applied, Rhinestones, stickers or dried flowers, this will act as added glue and sealant. (I even have a bottle or so of regular polish that I wanted to use solely for decorating, that I cleaned the excess polish off of the bristles. Then took a pair of scissors and trimmed off much of the bristles leaving a small section about the size of a toothpick. : REMEMBER – You can always cut more off, but you can’t put it back on!. So cut small amounts off at a time until you get the hang of what you are doing.  I have purchased Nail art supplies in many different places, even Ebay. Beauty Suppliers and Nail Salons used to be my first choice. If you dont mind spending money go ahead. Some suppliers aren’t too bad. I even found the polish at Dollar General.  Yes, they were only $1 a bottle, and just as good as from the supply house. Getting glue on decorations are a different story. They can be pretty pricey. I found Born Pretty Store.com . They alway run some pretty awesome contests. Right now, they are giving away the cutest eyeliners. Yes, eyeliner can be cute!

These Eyeliners are too cute

So relax, be creative, have fun. The only time I get really really nervous is, if I am doing someone elses nails. And they are the ones who expect perfection.  But what is the worst that can happen? So you get out the nail polish remover, and start that nail over again.

My Purple Nails

Baby Shower Games

As I look at the cute little construction paper cut out of a lady bug hanging on my refrigerator. It dawned on me that I had a Baby Shower to make some prize goodies up for some games that they are playing .  I tried to sit back and think of when my kiddos were little.   I only remember having one shower out of the 3 babies. But I have been to a few of them.  You need to take in consideration of your guests that are coming. There are the Game players, or there are those who would rather just sit back in the corner and watch.  Me being an extrovert, well you can guess what type of game player I would be. If  your guests, and of course , mommy to be are a little more Game Friendly, here is a list of a few I found on this amazing Evite website called The PurpleTrail

Name That Nursery Rhyme This is great especially when the New Addition may be having their rooms decorated with Nursery Rhymes.

Help to get the new parents to be up to speed with their nursery rhymes before the baby arrives!  This game is a hit for people of all ages.  We all remember nursery rhymes from our childhood…but just how well to we remember them?  Everyone will enjoy the trip down memory lane that this game provides.  Visit the PurpleTrail Printable Games store to download this game.

Mom Lib – These are always a blast to do. (You might want to add a small reference key if there is a chance your guests don’t know what for instance adverb, adjective, etc.. is. This can save some emberassment later)

Here’s a great little Mad Lib story about Mom-to-be’s Baby Shower day! Break the guests up into teams and have each team create their own unique Mad Lib and watch the fun begin. Optional ending game included for Mom’s who are adopting.  Give each team a work sheet to fill in the word description, without looking at the story. Then the team fills in the story using those same words; and they get a chance to read their crazy creation! Visit babyshowergamesatoz.com for a printable version of this game.

Baby Pictionary  You can modify the rules of this game to fit many different ideas, keep in mind if there is a Theme to the Party.

This game is based upon the original Pictionary board game. Before the shower, place words relating to baby activities and items on small cards. (eg: Changing a diaper, giving birth, feeding time) At the shower, create teams and give each one a pad of paper and pencil. Let one member of the team see a card, then tell then to draw the word or phrase for their partners to guess. Use a timer or just play until someone guesses. When the time is up, the teams total up the number of words they have guessed correctly and the one who has the most wins a prize.

Who Am I? Baby Shower Survey  If everyone knows the Mommy and her Family  really well, someone could even fill it out for the “Baby Daddy” or Siblings.

How well do you really know each other? Take this secret survey and have the Mom-to-be read the answers as the guests try to figure out Who’s Who! A great ice-breaker, even for groups who think they know everything about each other! Check out the printable version at babyshowergamesatoz.com.

Baby’s Beautiful Reflection

Is Baby going to be a “chip off the old block,” or a “beautiful reflection” of Mom? Let the laughter roar as guests try to decide which skill or trait Mom and Dad will say they want baby to inherit from them. Great game to play individually or at a couple’s shower.  How to Play: Looking at a list of traits, players mark an X for either Mom or Dad – depending on whom they think Mom wants baby to inherit that trait from. At the same time, Mom is marking her answer sheet with whom she wants baby to inherit that trait from. For a couples shower, split the men into a different group and let Dad mark his answer sheet separately.  babyshowergamesatoz.com

Complete the Book Title:  Dr. Seuss Books

This is a great game to play at a baby shower.  Everyone will love reminising about their favorite Dr. Seuss book, and the Mommy-to-be will get to hear all about the books she will soon be reading!  There are so many great book titles – how many will you be able to complete?  Visit the PurpleTrail printable games store to download this game.

Be sure to check out all of PurpleTrail’s baby shower printable games.

Publishers Clearing House Instant win, Scam or What?
It appears through comments on their websites that people have received so called “Instant Win ” Authorization Codes, yet NO ONE has been able to submit them.  There are 589 Comments posted, The first being

Dorothy Davidson | Jan 13, 2009 | Reply

my authorization code: is so smeared you cannot read it., so I say this is a bummer!!!

The last one -

Angela Barbaris | Jul 31, 2009 | Reply

I received a post card with authorization code: BK72.
Thank you! For once since I have been responding I am hoping that I could possibly win.

One would think that in a 6 month period of time a large company like PCH -(Publishers Clearing House) would have found and corrected this so called bug.

1. ellie ball | Jul 6, 2009 | Replyhello
   i am trying to fine pch.com/instant.i getting no where.i need the registration page.this is what i get all the time.do you know where i am to go to beside this page?
   thanks ellie
2. Connie McDonald | Jul 7, 2009 | ReplyI received a card to reply urgently
   I find no place to put in authorization
   code : DF72

   Hope this is good!! Looking forward !!!

1. Judith Olsen | Feb 4, 2009 | ReplyI too received the postcard but do not find entry instructions. My authorization code is PCH53Thank you
2. Joseph N. Wood | Feb 4, 2009 | ReplyDate is: Feb.4 2009 My Authorization Code is PCH78. My only comment isthat MY DOG could design a better system for obtaining the results you want:but not a better one for flustrations

Again, these are comments that were cut and pasted directly from the site. Note the dates and the reoccurring theme here. My question along with thousands of others, Scam or Not?? If anyone has had a different experience, please let us know. I know of at least 589 people who would like to know.

I personally went to their new feature they have out now, The PCH Search Engine. While you are there you are drawn to the temptations of more winning possibilities.
PCHLotto, PCHgames. PCHtrivia, PCHquiz4cash, PCHscratchcards,PCHshareandwin, and the frontrunner, PCHsearch and win. Trying to register in the PCHlotto section, while looks quite inviting, good luck trying to register your DOB. Yes, the Month and Date are easy to submit, but the year box is non functioning. You can not continue playing the lotto game until you have registered. Then you can not complete registration at least for Lotto anyway. I have a feeling that all the noted possible PCH win sites are going to have the same issues.
Do you have any experinces to give us a Glimmer of Hope, that the PCH online sites are on the up and up. Now they do have a winners page that states:
Janna S. From Las Vegas, NV won $50,000.00 playing the PCHLotto

Diane B. from Silver Springs, NY won $500.00

Phillip S. Ocean Springs won $500.00
The list goes on and on. We would just love to hear from someone who actually won. Even when you visit Sweepstake Forums like YDF -(Your Daily Freebies) will have the ocassional posting from those who have won.

CORRECTION FOUND:
In the midst of searching posts and further digging, I did find a redirect that does now lead you to a page where you can actually enter in a code. Now what it does from that point, you are on your own.  I really hope that this long standing household name is on the up & up.  So again, if you have had better luck than the almost 600 people posted, please share it with us.

http://sb.pch.com/ops/billme/aq/09/32-01/AugPostcardNB724.aspx?v=20093090&tc=205YI4589A

My thought on his Children? 12-year-old Michael Joseph Jr., known as Prince Michael; 11-year-old Paris-Michael; and 7-year-old Prince Michael II, known as Blanket, First thing that comes to mind was the lack of emotions shown by them during the memorial service. The 12 yr old, chomped eagerly away on probably bubble gum, with a strange lack of emotion on his face. Blanket, the 7 yr old, clutched a program and a MJ> Doll, had  fear and sadness in his eyes. Now to Paris, the beautiful 11 yr old Princess.  Yes, there was the little heart-wrenching speech at the end . But, I hate to say, but it seemed a little,less than real. It seemed as if there were forced tears, and the Aunts seemed to be a little “overly” attentive.  I am  in no way saying that they are faking anything. But, something just did not seem right, and I can’t quite put my finger on what it is?

{“Ever since I was born, Daddy has been the best father you could ever imagine,” she said, her tiny voice cracking. “And I just wanted to say I love him – so much.”}

Paris Breaks Down

I feel that the children’s mother, Debbie Rowe is only talking about gaining custody of the Children, because she would no longer continue to get the something like $900,000 a year to live on.  She gave birth to those children for Michael, not his Family. And now that he is gone, she is giving thought to claiming them.  I has been rumored that money is the driving force as to how much she will or will not be in the picture anymore.  When you listen to her talk about Jackson, she  never talks about him in the slightest derogatory way. She had nothing but genuine respect for him. She stated that when she gave birth to the first two children, it was Michael that nurtured and raised the children. She never changed diapers or got up in the middle of the night with them. It was all Daddy, who raised and protected them.  (Which, I wonder how he would feel that they are so much out in the open and visible. Being on the stage before millions to see.)

I also wonder where some others are that were such important factors in Jackson’s life.  Where was Oprah?, why is it just OK to send a note? This is what Diana Ross did as her letter was read by Smokey Robinson at the beginning of the ceremony. She did state however, that if the children needed her, she would be there for them.

“I am trying to find closure, I want you to know that even though I am not there at the Staples Center. I am there in my heart. I have decided to pause and be silent. This feels right for me. Michael was a personal love of mine, a treasured part of my world, part of the fabric of my life in a way that I can’t seem to find words to express. Michael wanted me to be there for his children, and I will be there if they ever they need me. I hope, today brings closure for all those who loved him. Thank you Katherine and Joe for sharing your son with the world and with me. I send my love and condolences to the Jackson family.” – Diana Ross

This is possibly in reference to the fact that Michael had petitioned the court, that if in the event of his demise, if his Mother Katherine Jackson, was either unwilling or unable to raise the three children, that he had named her, Diana Ross to take over the custody of the Children.  Elizabeth Taylor just posted on Twitter that she didn’t want to get involved in all the “Public Whoopla”

Elizabeth Taylor

She also stated that she “Might not be coherent enough”, or “How I feel is private and Michael would not want me to share my grief with Millions”. She adds that her

Janet, Paris, Blanket, Latoya,Jermaine,Prince

“Love goes out to Katherine and his Beloved Children” Again, no matter what your perception is of these statements, it is more than anyone has heard from Oprah.

Michael Jackson News | www.MichaelJackson.com

Michael Jackson Public Memorial Service

Michael Jackson Public Memorial Service will be held Tuesday, July 7, 2009, 1:00 PM EST at the Staples Center in Los Angeles, California.  The family stated “It was our wish to allow as many of Michael’s fans to be a part of the memorial, and we wish to thank everyone for their support and understanding at this difficult time,”. It will be broadcast on many media outlets. Even now, the night before, VH-1 is running a bulletin along the bottom of the screen stating there there will be live coverage with no commercials3w

The Jackson family today announced the participants for the Michael Jackson memorial at the Staples Center:

Ron Boyd (family friend); Kobe Bryant; Mariah Carey; Andrae Crouch; Berry Gordy; Jennifer Hudson; Shaheen Jafargholi (finalist on Britain’s Got Talent); Magic Johnson; Martin Luther King III; Bernice A. King; John Mayer; Lionel Richie; Smokey Robinson; Rev. Al Sharpton; Brooke Shields; Pastor Lucious Smith (family friend); Usher; and Stevie Wonder.

I sure hope that the public will remember the meaning of this ceremony and not go star struck  because of  all the celebrities that will be in attendance and turn this into a circus of the Stars.

Who’s Bad?  Too many to count

One message searched out on the largest Search Engine looking for “the Last Work of M. Jackson” directs us to a You Tube Video, instead leads you to a password stealing program.  Or , say you are looking for unpublished photos, you are lead  to a click-able link that now installs a password stealing program on your PC. Others may actually have enough legitimate news to keep you drawn in before being led to the malicious link or page.

Celebrity deaths are a potential Gold Mine for criminals. Godaddy.com is a leading Domain registry company reported that about 7,500 domain names that can be related to the name of Micheal Jackson, just since his death. Farah Fawcett has had approximately 100. Your guess is as good as anyone else’ s right now as to the validity of them. Not all of these names are purchased with the intentions to create harm. Many of these are purchased in hopes of having a peaked price value of what they may be worth in the future.

Just for the thought of things here, if you have not deleted your old emails yet, go back and see how many “NEW” emails came in claiming to have exclusive information, or secret song lyrics, never before seen photos, or comments “quoted” as being the last known, of something..

These Spammers dwell on our vuneralability, our thirst for finding out gossip, or just the plain old fact of our being a nosey society.  We get so caught up in the news, that we just forget about, usual saftey habits we have in place.

With the dis-heartening about of Celebrity deaths that seem to have occured in such a short amount of time, it leaves us yearning for information as to why. Many people have decided to change the channels on our TVs away from the nightly news. One Mom I spoke with told me that “I am already depressed enough with what is going on in the world with this recession stuff that is going on. I don’t need anything else to scare me or get me upset, moreso than I already am.” That, now lessons “How” you get your information of Current Events.

So how do you protect yourself, or should I say your computer from catching a Virus? Do you see a similarity here to the practise of having Safe Sex? When in all reality, some of the same principles hold true in both instances.

Obviously, abstinance is the safest way to go. Either stay off the computer completely, but that is a little extreme. But you can stay away from “New” sites you have not been to on a regular basis. Received an Email from someone you don’t know? Don’t even sneek a peek at it, just delete it. It is possible for bad stuff to happen by just opening the Email. Ok, so you decide to open the email, “just in case” it is something important. You see a few things there, that have your curiosity up. The URL Link, or return address can either look familiar or seem harmless as it is a big name you hear all the time. Well, what you “see” and where it is going to take you can be 2 different things. For Example, say you have received an Email from let’s say
People Magazine . They are a big name, well known, so it should be harmless to click the link, right? WRONG! Take your mouse pointer and just place it over the the People Magazine Link. As your doing that look at either the bottom left corner under the email, or up in the browser bar. Does it say people Magazine? Nope, it says Bearablescents, my website. So you see how easy the “Bad Guys” can show you one thing, but take you somewhere else. If you cant see what the url is of the link, you can right click on it, and it should also show you what the link address is.

Make sure you share this information with your children, especially the Tweens. They think they are old enough to do things on their own without you looking over their shoulder. But do not yet know much of the dangers of Internet Safety.

So whatever form of Scammery, the Bad ones have sent your way, it is better to be safe than sorry.  Do not download programs or video players so that you can “see or hear” these special/Exclusive files. Avoid links that have just miraculously been sent to you, or your told to download this program or file to make it work.

So now, Who’s Bad? Tell the Smooth Criminals, they can Just Beat It.

Jackson’s death unleashes online scams
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Summer Party Themes

Summertime is full of social gatherings from birthdays to weddings, there always seem to be a reason to celebrate.  With long days and warm nights, you’ll be looking for some new and creative ways to entertain this season.  Our party experts came up with some fantastic summer party themes.

Gardening Party

This is could be fun for the whole family.  Provide terra cotta pots for everyone and set up planting stations.  You can provide inexpensive plants like petunias or pansies or ask everyone to bring a few plants to share.  Provide potting soil and a few gardening tools for everyone to use.  You can set up a kids station and let them paint the pots or do their own planting.

Christmas in July

Why not bring the holiday spirit right into summer? Hang red and green lights on the deck and decorate the trees with ornaments. Pipe in some Christmas music to set the mood! Hand out stockings filled with summer inspired things like inflatable beach balls and sunscreen.  You can even serve Christmas cookies and all the traditional Christmas fare.  Grill up chicken and brush with a cranberry marinade.

Beach or Pool Party

Even if you don’t live on the beach or have a pool, you can still have a pool or beach party in your backyard.  Bring out the kiddie pool and sandbox.  Cut out surf boards from cardboard and stick them in the ground.  Play fun 60’s beach music and tell everyone to take their shoes off! Blow up plenty of beach balls to bounce around and consider setting up a volleyball set if you have one.

Vineyard Delight

Set up a beautiful table in the shade of a tree.  Play relaxing music and serve good cheese and fruit to compliment your wine selection. Incorporate a wine tasting game and encourage your guests to bring along their favorite vintage.

Barnyard Party

Set up the house and yard to feel like a barnyard dance.  You can get a few hay bales from a feed store and spread it around the yard.  Ask your guests to come in their best country attire.  Play square dance songs reserve an area just for dancing.  Incorporate some fun games like a pie eating contest or a potato sack race.  Serve up some fried chicken and grilled corn on the cob.  Finish the evening with some fresh baked apple pie!

Have a fabulous summer!  Hosting  a BBQ this season? Check out  great grilling ideas at PurpleTrail.

Back From Iraq

You can see the relief of being finally Home from Iraq

as you can see in this picture of my Son Chris Mansfield as he gives two of his Sisters a long awaited hug.

Home can have a different meaning as many times as there are days a week. Some days drama, some days solitude, but in all ways everyday should be security and comfort.

Depending on what phase of your life you are in, may put a determination on “which” structure you call Home, but when you need to feel safe that is where you find it.

H- Healing =repairing both Emotionally & Physically

O – Oasis = A place for refilling or refuge

M – Memories = The best thing you can give your Children is  memories

E – Escape =  A place of retreat to hide away from Everything

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How many of us can remember at one time saying this.. When I get older, I will not be a burden to my kids… Ok, now think back to when your Parents were what your age is now. Do you remember hearing them saying something to that  effect? More often than not you have. You may have seen how they dealt with their Parents aging issues, or maybe even say some program on television and they make the comment that they would NEVER want to be a burden on their Child.  Then of course they may have said, and I have heard this many times from my Mother, “Whatever you do, do not just stick me away in some Nursing Home somewhere!” Now that are Parents are getting older, the time is coming around for the failing Health to be showing up . Or they actually might not even be that old yet, but they have either had physical ailments or “willed” themselves into being older than they really are. On the topic of willing themselves to be older is something I only recently have a theory about. I think in my Father’s case it is a little of both, but I feel he is leaning more on the side of making himself out older than he really is.  I truly feel that he is making himself out to be worse off than he is, and I feel that it is because he is wanting attention. Again, just like when kids act out sometimes. They do it because they want attention. In my Father’s case, he lives alone 20 mins. from us. He doesn’t have any friends. he doesn’t get out of the house except for the occasional run to the grocery or hardware store. We have tried to get him involved with Adult groups/Centers, but he has no desire too. He wants no part of doing anything like Church, heck it is like pulling teeth to get him to come out to the occasional Family Function. He might leave his house to come out for Thanksgiving and Christmas. I think that is only because there is alot of food involved.  He does like it when I go out there to his house, but after a very few minutes, the silence kicks in. So then I feel guilty for the lack of conversation especially if we brought our Daughter with us/me. Then when the time comes to go, instead of being glad for the company, he makes me feel guilty for leaving.  Yes, it is because he is lonely, but he wants to do nothing to change that.  I don’t know how to correct the problem. He is letting himself deteriorate to the point where he is just waiting to die. He has gotten to the point he can hardly walk around because his muscles have just deteriorated. It is a chore for him to walk down his driveway to check his mail. He has falling issues, and if he does fall, he could be on the floor for hours before he gets up. Ive spoken with his DR., and he ordered Physical Therapy. They were out there for a few weeks until even the Therapist stated to the Dr. that he has improved as much as he is going to. He chose not to put an effort into doing the exercises other than when she was there for that hour. He would rather just get frustrated that he was getting old and going down hill.  I tried going out to his house a few times a week, but he just said what is the point it will not do any good.

After yet another fall, he stated he couldn’t live on his own anymore. So we moved him in with us. That was extremely hard on both of us. He was used to his way of doing things. We tried getting him involved in activities like going to the grocery store with us, or to our daughter’s soccer games, to my Husband’s Mother’s house for dinner, Etc. He might have gone to one, but the rest of the time all he did was choose to sit in the recliner and watch TV. Then complain he was tired of watching TV.  He treated me like a servant. I would have to make his breakfast, lunch and dinner. Then it got to the point, he would look at the plate when I gave him his food. If he approved, he would take it and eat it, if not, I would get this silence, which would probably lead to maybe one or two bites then just set it aside. If I didn’t offer something for him to drink, would sit there and be thirsty. I actually did this one day, just to see what he would do. I finally brought him something to drink that evening, and he says,’That is the first thing I have had to drink all day.” Inside I was livid, but I calmly said to him (for the 30th time), Daddy you know where everything is, you can get up and get stuff for yourself. He would say yea I know, but it was just in one ear and out the other. Because, he still just sat in that recliner, Until….. Night time came. He would take a sleeping pill (prescription) at 7ish at first. Then, he started taking it as early as 6 pm., saying it took a while for it to kick in. Usually within 15 minutes of eating dinner, he went to bed. Then 3/4 of the night he is up and down, getting a glass of water, wanting something to snack on, trying to sleep in the recliner, then to the couch, to the bathroom etc.. walking by the computer room then make comments the next day about me not sleeping. One time, I left to go run an errand, but my Husband stayed at home. He told me that I wasn’t gone 5 minutes and Daddy was up walking upright and steady to the other room to get a snack out of the second fridge.  Just scatting around like nothing.Why would he claim to be practically an invalid, yet get along 100% better than I have seen in a long time. Yes, I am guessing for attention, but I just do not understand why he would make it out to be so much worse?

What is the end result when you find yourself in the position of re- raising your Parent? Sigh, certainly is not growing up.

Celebrating with Grampa

As we look back at the years of when we raised our children, we looked forward to the time when we were finally going to be able to enjoy our lives, our freedom. We had it in the back of our heads that this would all be worth it one day. We had lots of things to look forward to as they get older, such as graduation, marriage, grandkids, but most of all you can look back at the fact that you completed your job. Now it is your turn to enjoy things in life for yourself. You no longer have to always do the right thing and put your children first. You are finally allowed to be a little selfish an do things for yourself for a change. You can plan a vacation to where it is nothing but what you want to do. Especially if you have a significant other, in my case it would be my Husband. I went through a few bad Marriages before I finally found the right mate. Through all of them though, I kept my kids first. Now that the kids are almost grown out of the house, I can begin to be selfish and plan a future for myself and my Husband. We were so excited that we were finally going to go do something that we knew we would love. We love being Rockhounds, and looking for treasure. We were planning our trips around good digging spots, beautiful scenic areas we wanted to see, or just find a place where there was peace and quiet. Most kids do not like these kinds of things, they want Disney, Water Parks, things that were exiting.  We spend all our time entertaining or occupying our children till we come to the day where we can stand back and say, It’s finally our time… Guess again.  Sometimes it creeps up on you out of the blue or sometimes you see it coming but you just don’t want to face it. Until, you don’t have a choice. Not a choice that you can live with yourself on. You have to start all over again, but this time it is in reverse. Now it is time to take care of your Parent.  You go through so many emotions it is that roller coaster all over again. But this time when your job is done you cant stand back and say look what I did, and I did a Damn good job. Now,you don’t think to yourself that you have an end in sight to where you can once again be selfish, because if you do , you looking forward to your Parents demise. What kind of horrible person would you be if you thought like that?  So, you clench your jaws, bite your toungue and deal with whatever it may be that is going on at the time.  These feelings will pass when you walk by your parent sitting in that chair (that they never seem to get out of) and they grab your arm and give it a shake with a greatful grin on their face. Or a “thank you sweety” when you bring them their dinner, which for sure would have never been gotten if you hadn’t have done it for them, the uptight feelings will subside, at least for now anyways. It is the right thing to do, you keep telling yourself. You know there is no way they can live on their own anylonger. Nor, would you be able to live with yourself if you chose the other option of putting them in a home. Then someone suggests those assisted living facilities to you. It is  a thought, until you think about bringing it up to them. Or until you look into a little more and you find that in order for Medicare to cover the expenses of this, they have to be almost broke and homeless. Yes,  they can transfer their assests out of their name into someone elses, then what? First, the State goes back 3 years looking into their financial History, so you know you have to continue your life as it is for at least another 3 years. How will I ever be able to manage that? Now, you have to approach them about transferring everything they have worked for in life into your name or whomever else. In my case I am an only child, so there is no other option besides me. The longer it takes, the longer time it will be over the 3 years. So when you do approach them, what goes through their minds? Do they now feel like they are a burden even more than what they were feeling becasue you are going to “put them in a home” No matter what you say or how you word it, this is what they are going to hear.  Even if  you decide that your not going the route of transferring their assests out of their name, How are they going to feel when everything they worked and saved for during their lifetime, will now be gone over a very small period of time?  Now is the time we wish we could just climb back in bed and pull the covers over our heads and hope it will all just go away.  Oh my goodness, did you just hear what you said? What kind of horrible person would think that way?

“How can you be bored already, school just got out on Friday?”

“I know,  but I’m still bored There’s nothing to do.”

“Well, then go find something to do!”

“There isn’t nothing for me TO do, that isn’t boring”

“Ok, then I will find you something to do! Go clean your room!”

“Mooooom, Gosh, I just got out of School, I’m supposed to just Chillax and do Nuthin!”

Arggggggggggh, I am going to pull my hair out already! It’s not like she is a 7 or 8 year old, She will be 14 in just a few weeks. I knew this was going to happen, normally just staying home for the weekend is like pulling teeth. So now, we are walking around the house with our lip out so low, we can sweep the floors while we are walking. But the inevitable will soon be heard, Mom, can I call So and So? Well, by this time your floors are about as clean as they are going to get, so in an almost sense of relief you quickly agree because you know what will be soon to follow behind.  Then we as parents do this flip flop thing in our heads when they ask, “Can I go over to so n so’s house?” Our first knee jerk reaction is almost one of defiance. “Why, your NOT going to stay the night over there!” We declare to prove out authority. Why we do this, I have no idea. Yet when we step back and look at it, we don’t mind really, it will give her something to do. And if we are in an extremely good mood, we tell them right from the beginning, “Sure, its OK, as long as it is ok with her Mom. Why do we do this power play thing? Does it stop at just our kids, or do we bring this over into the rest of our lives?  My opinion is that it spills over into our lives. For instance, if you wanted to hit your boss up for a raise, or you wanted to get your spouse to Ok something you really really wanted, what do we do? We wait until the time is right. We prepare the situation ahead of time, butter them up per say. Not all the time does this happen. But I bet if every person really turned that mirror on them selves and really looked deep, you would find that it is true. Heck, many Husbands do the same thing when they want to have a little Grown Up time with their wives. They butter her up, or prepare the situation.  Of course, that does backfire quite a lot according to men. Their wife just accused them of doing something wrong, “Wow these flowers are Beautiful!, What did you do?” Then that leads to the anger part. “What do you mean, what did I do? Can’t I just do something nice for you because I love you?”, He declares. When deep down inside he didn’t do anything wrong, but he was sure “Hoping” he could.

MTV Movie Awards – Was It Real or Set Up?

Ok, so many of you watched the MTV Movie Awards last night.  My first reaction was OMG was he ever P***ed off!  To me, he really looked mad, and the audience looked shocked. Heck I would be ticked off too if it were me. Some people are saying it is a set up, others are saying that it is for real.  I noticed back towards the beginning of it, when Bruno, the winged one, collides with the set that is in the way, it appears that a cord or something that was holding him upright, does snap. Which is what they say was the onset of the malfunction.  But, the fact that the camera just “happens” to pan down to Eminem and his crew who are looking up at Bruno out of hundreds of other people there?Hmm?   Well to me it was a Flash Back to Superbowl 38 , where the supposed “wardrobe Malfunction ” of Janet Jackson comes to mind. Which ironically was created by MTV as well.  MTV promised the Superbowl Fans a Shocking surprise.  You tell me, accident or set up?

So when you look at the photo blur of a close up of the exposed breast,

Janet Jackson's oops

( I tried to keep it R-rated) First if this wasn’t “planned” then when you look at the photo, you will see the actual snaps that were put on it to come unsnapped when Justin pulled it. Also, even though it is blurred, you can still make out the ornamental jewelry of a sun that Janet wore over her nipple. Hard to believe that it was just  there with out the intention of being exposed. Puh lease.

Oh, and then there was the “other” surprise of the lip lock between Brittany Spears and Madonna.  We viewers should be prepared for just about anything by now. So you guys watch the video again , or maybe it is your first time seeing this, but either way, here is the MTV Movie Awards Video with

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