And Then We Were Three

We had always joked around counting down the Children as they grew and flew the coop.  I had 3 of mine biologically,  and my husband had 2. In addition to that,  from previous marriages,  i had been a step mom to 4 other girls.      I was  18 when I had my first son,  who is now 33.  I will save you some time with your math as i am now 51. Soon to be 52 in December.  It was 2 years ago in June,  the youngest moved out on her 18th birthday.

It finally happened.  We had  raised our children.  We Now had our home to ourselves.  We had our time to ourselves.  We could sit Now either inside or out,  and just listen…  Quiet.  We had peace and quiet,  finally. We could watch what WE wanted.  Could eat out where WE wanted and we could even choose the time.  I didn’t have to try and satisfy a multitude of palettes as could prepare what WE did or did not want.  Thirty years of raising children had finally come to an end and I could enjoy the awesomeness of being a Grandparent.

We love being grandparents and everything that brings.  We had even said jokingly that if we could have been grandparents first,  we wouldn’t have had Children.   Although,  deep down, Down, down we knew that wasnt completely truth, but pretty close.

We had our freedom from July 14th till October 4th… That’s when we learned that God had a sense of humor.  We thought,  Yea it’s our time,  God said ” NOT! “.  That day was the first day that our 3 year old grandson came to live with us.  He is now about a month away from his 5th Birthday,  and hopefully by that time the Adoption will finally be completed as well.

It is completely true,  when One door closes another one opens.  Yes,  our lives took a complete turn around of what we were expecting, but our hearts are so full of love for this very special little boy who Now calls us Mommy And Daddy.

We have learned a valuable life lesson.  It is not OUR time that matters,  it’s GOD’S time and He controls it all.  This Just confirms what i have always said.  That everything happens for a reason and we just have to shut up and listen.

A kiss for luck

A kiss for luck


Add Some Bling To Your Nails

If you are like Me, getting nails on is a real treat. I love the look of longer nails, and I want that little touch of bling on top of them to boot. Well, I am one for pinching pennies, so I taught myself how to add the Nail Art. It is enough to spend money on myself getting the nails. But there is no way I am going to pay an additional $1.00 a nail to ge them decorated. Honestly with the right tools, it is not that hard to do.

First and foremost, you must relax. Do not be so hard on yourself that they must be exactly perfect on each nail. If they are a little off, no one will really notice except you.  As long as you get them pretty similar, it will be great.

For me, I get them filled and painted at the Nail Salon. I bring my own polish. That way, if I need to touch it up, I have the polish to do so.

Then I let my imagination be my guide.  I have several bottles of decorating nailpaints. I have about a dozen colors or so. These come with very thin brushes in order to be able to paint with detail.  Another REAL need in my book, is a quick drying top coat/clear polish. You generally have a good amount of polish built up on the nail. And have spent a good deal of time on it, so you want to “set” the polish. This gives it an added shine and if you have applied, Rhinestones, stickers or dried flowers, this will act as added glue and sealant. (I even have a bottle or so of regular polish that I wanted to use solely for decorating, that I cleaned the excess polish off of the bristles. Then took a pair of scissors and trimmed off much of the bristles leaving a small section about the size of a toothpick. : REMEMBER – You can always cut more off, but you can’t put it back on!. So cut small amounts off at a time until you get the hang of what you are doing.  I have purchased Nail art supplies in many different places, even Ebay. Beauty Suppliers and Nail Salons used to be my first choice. If you dont mind spending money go ahead. Some suppliers aren’t too bad. I even found the polish at Dollar General.  Yes, they were only $1 a bottle, and just as good as from the supply house. Getting glue on decorations are a different story. They can be pretty pricey. I found Born Pretty . They alway run some pretty awesome contests. Right now, they are giving away the cutest eyeliners. Yes, eyeliner can be cute!

These Eyeliners are too cute

Born Pretty Nail Art

So relax, be creative, have fun. The only time I get really really nervous is, if I am doing someone elses nails. And they are the ones who expect perfection.  But what is the worst that can happen? So you get out the nail polish remover, and start that nail over again.

Doesn't have to be perfect

My Purple Nails

It’s A Baby Shower, Now What?

Baby Shower Games

As I look at the cute little construction paper cut out of a lady bug hanging on my refrigerator. It dawned on me that I had a Baby Shower to make some prize goodies up for some games that they are playing .  I tried to sit back and think of when my kiddos were little.   I only remember having one shower out of the 3 babies. But I have been to a few of them.  You need to take in consideration of your guests that are coming. There are the Game players, or there are those who would rather just sit back in the corner and watch.  Me being an extrovert, well you can guess what type of game player I would be. If  your guests, and of course , mommy to be are a little more Game Friendly, here is a list of a few I found on this amazing Evite website called The PurpleTrail

Name That Nursery Rhyme This is great especially when the New Addition may be having their rooms decorated with Nursery Rhymes.

Help to get the new parents to be up to speed with their nursery rhymes before the baby arrives!  This game is a hit for people of all ages.  We all remember nursery rhymes from our childhood…but just how well to we remember them?  Everyone will enjoy the trip down memory lane that this game provides.  Visit the PurpleTrail Printable Games store to download this game.

Mom Lib – These are always a blast to do. (You might want to add a small reference key if there is a chance your guests don’t know what for instance adverb, adjective, etc.. is. This can save some emberassment later)

Here’s a great little Mad Lib story about Mom-to-be’s Baby Shower day! Break the guests up into teams and have each team create their own unique Mad Lib and watch the fun begin. Optional ending game included for Mom’s who are adopting.  Give each team a work sheet to fill in the word description, without looking at the story. Then the team fills in the story using those same words; and they get a chance to read their crazy creation! Visit for a printable version of this game.

Baby Pictionary  You can modify the rules of this game to fit many different ideas, keep in mind if there is a Theme to the Party.

This game is based upon the original Pictionary board game. Before the shower, place words relating to baby activities and items on small cards. (eg: Changing a diaper, giving birth, feeding time) At the shower, create teams and give each one a pad of paper and pencil. Let one member of the team see a card, then tell then to draw the word or phrase for their partners to guess. Use a timer or just play until someone guesses. When the time is up, the teams total up the number of words they have guessed correctly and the one who has the most wins a prize.

Who Am I? Baby Shower Survey  If everyone knows the Mommy and her Family  really well, someone could even fill it out for the “Baby Daddy” or Siblings.

How well do you really know each other? Take this secret survey and have the Mom-to-be read the answers as the guests try to figure out Who’s Who! A great ice-breaker, even for groups who think they know everything about each other! Check out the printable version at

Baby’s Beautiful Reflection

Is Baby going to be a “chip off the old block,” or a “beautiful reflection” of Mom? Let the laughter roar as guests try to decide which skill or trait Mom and Dad will say they want baby to inherit from them. Great game to play individually or at a couple’s shower.  How to Play: Looking at a list of traits, players mark an X for either Mom or Dad – depending on whom they think Mom wants baby to inherit that trait from. At the same time, Mom is marking her answer sheet with whom she wants baby to inherit that trait from. For a couples shower, split the men into a different group and let Dad mark his answer sheet separately.

Complete the Book Title:  Dr. Seuss Books

This is a great game to play at a baby shower.  Everyone will love reminising about their favorite Dr. Seuss book, and the Mommy-to-be will get to hear all about the books she will soon be reading!  There are so many great book titles – how many will you be able to complete?  Visit the PurpleTrail printable games store to download this game.

Be sure to check out all of PurpleTrail’s baby shower printable games.

Publishers Clearing House Instant win, Scam or What?
It appears through comments on their websites that people have received so called “Instant Win ” Authorization Codes, yet NO ONE has been able to submit them.  There are 589 Comments posted, The first being

Dorothy Davidson | Jan 13, 2009 | Reply

my authorization code: is so smeared you cannot read it., so I say this is a bummer!!!

The last one –

Angela Barbaris | Jul 31, 2009 | Reply

I received a post card with authorization code: BK72.
Thank you! For once since I have been responding I am hoping that I could possibly win.

One would think that in a 6 month period of time a large company like PCH -(Publishers Clearing House) would have found and corrected this so called bug.

  1. ellie ball | Jul 6, 2009 | Replyhello
    i am trying to fine getting no where.i need the registration page.this is what i get all the you know where i am to go to beside this page?
    thanks ellie
  2. Connie McDonald | Jul 7, 2009 | ReplyI received a card to reply urgently
    I find no place to put in authorization
    code : DF72

    Hope this is good!! Looking forward !!!

  1. Judith Olsen | Feb 4, 2009 | ReplyI too received the postcard but do not find entry instructions. My authorization code is PCH53Thank you
  2. Joseph N. Wood | Feb 4, 2009 | ReplyDate is: Feb.4 2009 My Authorization Code is PCH78. My only comment isthat MY DOG could design a better system for obtaining the results you want:but not a better one for flustrations

Again, these are comments that were cut and pasted directly from the site. Note the dates and the reoccurring theme here. My question along with thousands of others, Scam or Not?? If anyone has had a different experience, please let us know. I know of at least 589 people who would like to know.

I personally went to their new feature they have out now, The PCH Search Engine. While you are there you are drawn to the temptations of more winning possibilities.
PCHLotto, PCHgames. PCHtrivia, PCHquiz4cash, PCHscratchcards,PCHshareandwin, and the frontrunner, PCHsearch and win. Trying to register in the PCHlotto section, while looks quite inviting, good luck trying to register your DOB. Yes, the Month and Date are easy to submit, but the year box is non functioning. You can not continue playing the lotto game until you have registered. Then you can not complete registration at least for Lotto anyway. I have a feeling that all the noted possible PCH win sites are going to have the same issues.
Do you have any experinces to give us a Glimmer of Hope, that the PCH online sites are on the up and up. Now they do have a winners page that states:
Janna S. From Las Vegas, NV won $50,000.00 playing the PCHLotto

Diane B. from Silver Springs, NY won $500.00

Phillip S. Ocean Springs won $500.00
The list goes on and on. We would just love to hear from someone who actually won. Even when you visit Sweepstake Forums like YDF -(Your Daily Freebies) will have the ocassional posting from those who have won.

In the midst of searching posts and further digging, I did find a redirect that does now lead you to a page where you can actually enter in a code. Now what it does from that point, you are on your own.  I really hope that this long standing household name is on the up & up.  So again, if you have had better luck than the almost 600 people posted, please share it with us.

Tearfull Tuesday

My heart is heavy today as I viewed the memorial Service along with Millions of other people around the world. I couldn’t help but shed a few tears. I continued to cry off and on as I even thought about the fact that he actually is gone.  I flash back to when I was very young and heard that the Other King had died. That being Elvis Presley. I can not help but think there is a tiny part of me that thinks once again, that he could have fabricated his own death, just to have some peace and quiet.  Hey, It’s Possible isn’t it?  Some serious acting could have taken place. When you put that thought in your head and go back and look at some of the  out-takes from today, they fit.  But, that would take someone who was thinking more of themselves than they did of others. It would take a selfish so & so to pull that off. Michael, was by far, not that person.  He was so low keyed, soft spoken, truly not an aggressor.  Have you seen him, angry or yelling at anyone, ever? The most aggressive, I , have ever seen him was in his Thriller Music Video. If anyone can remember anytime he was angry or upset, please share a comment with us, because I just can’t think of any.

My thought on his Children? 12-year-old Michael Joseph Jr., known as Prince Michael; 11-year-old Paris-Michael; and 7-year-old Prince Michael II, known as Blanket, First thing that comes to mind was the lack of emotions shown by them during the memorial service. The 12 yr old, chomped eagerly away on probably bubble gum, with a strange lack of emotion on his face. Blanket, the 7 yr old, clutched a program and a MJ> Doll, had  fear and sadness in his eyes. Now to Paris, the beautiful 11 yr old Princess.  Yes, there was the little heart-wrenching speech at the end . But, I hate to say, but it seemed a little,less than real. It seemed as if there were forced tears, and the Aunts seemed to be a little “overly” attentive.  I am  in no way saying that they are faking anything. But, something just did not seem right, and I can’t quite put my finger on what it is?

{“Ever since I was born, Daddy has been the best father you could ever imagine,” she said, her tiny voice cracking. “And I just wanted to say I love him – so much.”}

Paris Breaks Down

Paris Breaks Down

I feel that the children’s mother, Debbie Rowe is only talking about gaining custody of the Children, because she would no longer continue to get the something like $900,000 a year to live on.  She gave birth to those children for Michael, not his Family. And now that he is gone, she is giving thought to claiming them.  I has been rumored that money is the driving force as to how much she will or will not be in the picture anymore.  When you listen to her talk about Jackson, she  never talks about him in the slightest derogatory way. She had nothing but genuine respect for him. She stated that when she gave birth to the first two children, it was Michael that nurtured and raised the children. She never changed diapers or got up in the middle of the night with them. It was all Daddy, who raised and protected them.  (Which, I wonder how he would feel that they are so much out in the open and visible. Being on the stage before millions to see.)

The Children wave near the end of the Service

The Children wave near the end of the Service

I also wonder where some others are that were such important factors in Jackson’s life.  Where was Oprah?, why is it just OK to send a note? This is what Diana Ross did as her letter was read by Smokey Robinson at the beginning of the ceremony. She did state however, that if the children needed her, she would be there for them.

“I am trying to find closure, I want you to know that even though I am not there at the Staples Center. I am there in my heart. I have decided to pause and be silent. This feels right for me. Michael was a personal love of mine, a treasured part of my world, part of the fabric of my life in a way that I can’t seem to find words to express. Michael wanted me to be there for his children, and I will be there if they ever they need me. I hope, today brings closure for all those who loved him. Thank you Katherine and Joe for sharing your son with the world and with me. I send my love and condolences to the Jackson family.” – Diana Ross

This is possibly in reference to the fact that Michael had petitioned the court, that if in the event of his demise, if his Mother Katherine Jackson, was either unwilling or unable to raise the three children, that he had named her, Diana Ross to take over the custody of the Children.  Elizabeth Taylor just posted on Twitter that she didn’t want to get involved in all the “Public Whoopla”

Elizabeth Taylor

Elizabeth Taylor

She also stated that she “Might not be coherent enough”, or “How I feel is private and Michael would not want me to share my grief with Millions”. She adds that her

Janet, Paris, Blanket, Latoya,Jermaine,Prince

Janet, Paris, Blanket, Latoya,Jermaine,Prince

“Love goes out to Katherine and his Beloved Children” Again, no matter what your perception is of these statements, it is more than anyone has heard from Oprah.

Michael Jackson News |

Michael Jackson Public Memorial Service

Michael Jackson Public Memorial Service will be held Tuesday, July 7, 2009, 1:00 PM EST at the Staples Center in Los Angeles, California.  The family stated “It was our wish to allow as many of Michael’s fans to be a part of the memorial, and we wish to thank everyone for their support and understanding at this difficult time,”. It will be broadcast on many media outlets. Even now, the night before, VH-1 is running a bulletin along the bottom of the screen stating there there will be live coverage with no commercials3w

The Jackson family today announced the participants for the Michael Jackson memorial at the Staples Center:

Ron Boyd (family friend); Kobe Bryant; Mariah Carey; Andrae Crouch; Berry Gordy; Jennifer Hudson; Shaheen Jafargholi (finalist on Britain’s Got Talent); Magic Johnson; Martin Luther King III; Bernice A. King; John Mayer; Lionel Richie; Smokey Robinson; Rev. Al Sharpton; Brooke Shields; Pastor Lucious Smith (family friend); Usher; and Stevie Wonder.

I sure hope that the public will remember the meaning of this ceremony and not go star struck  because of  all the celebrities that will be in attendance and turn this into a circus of the Stars.

“Ever since I was born, Daddy has been the best father you could ever imagine,” she said, her tiny voice cracking. “And I just wanted to say I love him – so much.”

Who’s BAD….. The Scammers Who Capitalize On The Death Of The King of Pop, That’s Who

Who’s Bad?  Too many to count As the majority of the World is thought to be mourning the Death of the Self Proclaimed “King of Pop” Michael Jackson. We find that is not necessarily true. Unfortunately, Celebrity deaths and Major News items are a Gold Mine for Criminals. While the Average person is now hitting the Internet for information about the event, we are enticed by the spammers to be lured right into their trap.  It was reported that Spam accounts for more than 90% of the emails being sent out. In particular after a major event such as the Death of Michael Jackson.  Jackson’s death came as a surprise to everyone, especially the spammers. But beware as time goes on their malicious programs will become more prominent.

One message searched out on the largest Search Engine looking for “the Last Work of M. Jackson” directs us to a You Tube Video, instead leads you to a password stealing program.  Or , say you are looking for unpublished photos, you are lead  to a click-able link that now installs a password stealing program on your PC. Others may actually have enough legitimate news to keep you drawn in before being led to the malicious link or page.

Celebrity deaths are a potential Gold Mine for criminals. is a leading Domain registry company reported that about 7,500 domain names that can be related to the name of Micheal Jackson, just since his death. Farah Fawcett has had approximately 100. Your guess is as good as anyone else’ s right now as to the validity of them. Not all of these names are purchased with the intentions to create harm. Many of these are purchased in hopes of having a peaked price value of what they may be worth in the future.

Just for the thought of things here, if you have not deleted your old emails yet, go back and see how many “NEW” emails came in claiming to have exclusive information, or secret song lyrics, never before seen photos, or comments “quoted” as being the last known, of something..

These Spammers dwell on our vuneralability, our thirst for finding out gossip, or just the plain old fact of our being a nosey society.  We get so caught up in the news, that we just forget about, usual saftey habits we have in place.

With the dis-heartening about of Celebrity deaths that seem to have occured in such a short amount of time, it leaves us yearning for information as to why. Many people have decided to change the channels on our TVs away from the nightly news. One Mom I spoke with told me that “I am already depressed enough with what is going on in the world with this recession stuff that is going on. I don’t need anything else to scare me or get me upset, moreso than I already am.” That, now lessons “How” you get your information of Current Events.

So how do you protect yourself, or should I say your computer from catching a Virus? Do you see a similarity here to the practise of having Safe Sex? When in all reality, some of the same principles hold true in both instances.

Obviously, abstinance is the safest way to go. Either stay off the computer completely, but that is a little extreme. But you can stay away from “New” sites you have not been to on a regular basis. Received an Email from someone you don’t know? Don’t even sneek a peek at it, just delete it. It is possible for bad stuff to happen by just opening the Email. Ok, so you decide to open the email, “just in case” it is something important. You see a few things there, that have your curiosity up. The URL Link, or return address can either look familiar or seem harmless as it is a big name you hear all the time. Well, what you “see” and where it is going to take you can be 2 different things. For Example, say you have received an Email from let’s say
People Magazine . They are a big name, well known, so it should be harmless to click the link, right? WRONG! Take your mouse pointer and just place it over the the People Magazine Link. As your doing that look at either the bottom left corner under the email, or up in the browser bar. Does it say people Magazine? Nope, it says Bearablescents, my website. So you see how easy the “Bad Guys” can show you one thing, but take you somewhere else. If you cant see what the url is of the link, you can right click on it, and it should also show you what the link address is.

Make sure you share this information with your children, especially the Tweens. They think they are old enough to do things on their own without you looking over their shoulder. But do not yet know much of the dangers of Internet Safety.

So whatever form of Scammery, the Bad ones have sent your way, it is better to be safe than sorry.  Do not download programs or video players so that you can “see or hear” these special/Exclusive files. Avoid links that have just miraculously been sent to you, or your told to download this program or file to make it work.

So now, Who’s Bad? Tell the Smooth Criminals, they can Just Beat It.

Jackson’s death unleashes online scams


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